A visit from my friend!

For a long time each and every month, I experienced swollen breast, uterine cramps, a headache of extreme magnitude, along with mood swings that went from happy to irritable, to overwhelmed and just plain aggravated for no apparent reason. It seemed as if I was possessed by some sort of entity that had taken over my body and mind. These symptoms although less extreme, have now become my constant reminder each month to remember to break the chains of self sacrifice, to become responsible for my health and my wealth, and to pursue the things that I love and are most passionate about.

Beginning around 5 years ago around the time of my period, I would develop a deep longing to retreat from everything and everyone, while at the same time my inner soul would torment me with severe with physical and emotional PMS. I felt like I would surely go crazy if I did not do something about it, so I began to seek solutions to what it is that causes this shift particularly in my soul and character during menstruation.

I refused to believe the indoctrinated belief that because Eve ate the fruit from the tree in the Garden of Eden, menstrual pain and pain in child birth became the woman’s burden to carry. I also rejected being told that the symptoms that I was having each month had nothing to do with my actual life and that they are strictly a result of hormonal shifts in the body. I also refused to settle for masking my symptoms with pills. Thanks to many spiritual teachers and health care professionals that are committed to truly helping women, I learned information that sent chills through my body to the very core of my soul. I knew that I had found the answers that I needed and that have actually made a world of difference in my monthly menstrual experiences.

I discovered that we carry a store house of negative beliefs, thoughts, hurts, losses, and negative experiences that are suppressed or minimized for many years and eve decades. Over time, these suppressed emotions become overwhelming and along with our monthly hormonal shifts, begin to reveal themselves physically through extreme PMS. These symptoms are the body’s wisdom (your soul); pleading that life’s unresolved issues be attended to. It’s a wake up call designed to remind you to begin to fulfill your purpose and take care of your own needs and desires. Poor diet, and a negative environment simply enhance these symptoms. In addition to the above, I discovered that the cycles of the moon and the earth, have a complex and beautiful connection to the monthly menstrual cycle that women experience. The true meaning of our menstrual cycles has been suppressed and we are ignorant of its spiritual and magnificently beautiful deeper significance.

As a result of what I discovered, I made lots of adjustments in my life. I stopped ignoring myself and my needs. I find ways to be alone and ask for guidance to deal with my suppressed emotions through meditation and the use of positive affirmations. Deep hidden emotions and lots of realizations have begun to surface, and are helping me to establish a better sense of self love and worthiness within myself. I also make it a part of my life to generally eat healthy and exercise. I try my best not to complain about my period and I chant quietly to myself, that my menstrual cycle is the way that I connect with the cycles of the moon and the tides and it is fabulous.
My body is now responding to my positive energy and the adjustments that I have made with love and much less intense PMS symptoms. I am now developing a wonderful relationship with my menstrual cycle and I actually welcome it each month and all the wisdom, and intuition that I gain during that time.

I have also come to realize that the whole Authentic Me concept is really all about me and my personal journey to discovering my authentic self and a purpose filled life. My vision for the Authentic me organization, my writings and my products is that my journey helps someone on their path to spiritual, physical and financial wealth all while deliberately designing her life to be fabulous and extraordinary.

Remember that you are fabulous, you are beautiful, and worthy of the very best in life!

Necey-

April's Authentic Me Party

HOW FAR WOULD YOU GO TO CAPTURE A MAN?


Is giving the best blow job, having a big booty, looking like a music video girl and learning to perform in bed like a porn star the solution to getting a good man or keeping one? While flipping through my monthly subscription of Essence Magazine, I came across an article titled The Body Shop – How far would you go to get a man - or please the one you have. The article focused on the pursuit of the new term coined as sexual perfection. My immediate thoughts were (what the F*&%K).

Paying for sex lessons i.e. (how to give good head) and black market hydro- gel buttocks injections are just a few of the tools from the bag of tricks that supports the interest in sexual perfection that stems from the belief that in order to get a man, keep a man or become the wifey, you better look a certain way and perform like a porn star in bed. The increased willingness of women to meet the raised sexual bar is based on the idea that there are not enough black men to go around. This gives men the upper hand to be able to demand and get what they want in bed. They are making it perfectly clear to woman that if their sexual performance isn’t good enough then they will be replaced by someone who will do it the right way. Grown men are actually responding to magazine polls that show that they think woman should be committed to the act of oral sex and that they are totally dissatisfied and even angered if a woman does not perform it properly. Good oral sex has become a right of entitlement to the mind (ego) of many men. Does this make these guys look totally shallow, weak and downright ignorant or what?

Please, somebody tell me when the ability to give a dynamic blow job has ever kept a man from straying? Now I know in the super inflated egos of many men, they are thinking what a dream come true it would be to have a woman that could be defined a possessing sexual perfection. Please know that no matter how great a man or a woman is in the bed or how great one looks today, eventually the infatuation and lust that you once held for one another will fade when the mask comes off and the real persons show up. Either what you have turns into true love and respect, or agitation and resentment. The once perfect face, booty and the great sex is no longer enough by itself to maintain the relationship, and people most often look to find someone new to give them that lustful high that they experience in a new courtship. Just know that to attempt to look perfect and be perfect in bed to keep a man is a dead end street.

My soul aches to know that in 2009, there are women who don’t yet understand their self-worth, and seek self validation from a man’s opinion about them. It’s as if we are moving backwards instead of forward in terms of gaining respect from men. My beautiful sisters, please know that there is so much more to love, life and happiness then being the biggest booty on the block. It deeply puzzles me why women tolerate this mentality from men. Ladies always remember that you have the golden eggs, you have what they want, so technically you should be the one calling the shots especially when it comes to what you do and don’t do with your body. So stop being afraid that he will go out and get someone else. Whoever she is; she can have his broke down mentality behind. Let him go.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that the ability to give a good blow job is not a good asset to have if that’s what you and your current or future man both enjoy. I do believe that doing your best to looking your best and being experimental and liberated sexually is a wonderful thing. But in no way should you allow the value that a man puts on you be based merely on how well you perform in bed or whether or not you have a ghetto booty or a twenty two inch waist line. Keep in mind that a real man who values himself, won’t fall for just a big booty and smile. A conscious man definitely looks for more substance in a woman.
My vision for myself is not to be able to give the best head, work a stripper pole and keep my body tight and looking right so that a man will love me. My goal is to have a man love me for who I am so that my desire and pleasure is to give him great sex, work a pole for him and keep myself looking my best, because his wonderful love is one of the things that inspires me to do so; big difference.

When you are developing on a conscious level you are able to see past this type of foolishness and you clearly understand that a true love connection is one that comes deep from the soul. If we put half the energy into loving and appreciating ourselves and working on the inner woman, as we do into fixing the outer woman to please or keep a man, we would be 100 years ahead in our evolution as women. If true love and respect is what you are seeking then you must stop settling for less. Stop wasting your time focusing and worrying about the physical assets that you don’t have, and be thankful for the ones you do have. Learn to love and respect yourself so that you will be better equipped to attract a quality man into your life, and only then can you find true love and happiness.

Now a word to the brothers who endorse this foolishness; when you can match up to L.L. Cool J in terms of body image, and after you enroll into how to eat p*&%y 101 and stay rock hard all night 101 and actually get it right, then you may have a leg to stand on, until then ni%$ga’s please!


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And ladies, remember that you are fabulous, you are beautiful, and worthy of the very best in life!
Necey-