For a long time each and every month, I experienced swollen breast, uterine cramps, a headache of extreme magnitude, along with mood swings that went from happy to irritable, to overwhelmed and just plain aggravated for no apparent reason. It seemed as if I was possessed by some sort of entity that had taken over my body and mind. These symptoms although less extreme, have now become my constant reminder each month to remember to break the chains of self sacrifice, to become responsible for my health and my wealth, and to pursue the things that I love and are most passionate about.
Beginning around 5 years ago around the time of my period, I would develop a deep longing to retreat from everything and everyone, while at the same time my inner soul would torment me with severe with physical and emotional PMS. I felt like I would surely go crazy if I did not do something about it, so I began to seek solutions to what it is that causes this shift particularly in my soul and character during menstruation.
I refused to believe the indoctrinated belief that because Eve ate the fruit from the tree in the Garden of Eden, menstrual pain and pain in child birth became the woman’s burden to carry. I also rejected being told that the symptoms that I was having each month had nothing to do with my actual life and that they are strictly a result of hormonal shifts in the body. I also refused to settle for masking my symptoms with pills. Thanks to many spiritual teachers and health care professionals that are committed to truly helping women, I learned information that sent chills through my body to the very core of my soul. I knew that I had found the answers that I needed and that have actually made a world of difference in my monthly menstrual experiences.
I discovered that we carry a store house of negative beliefs, thoughts, hurts, losses, and negative experiences that are suppressed or minimized for many years and eve decades. Over time, these suppressed emotions become overwhelming and along with our monthly hormonal shifts, begin to reveal themselves physically through extreme PMS. These symptoms are the body’s wisdom (your soul); pleading that life’s unresolved issues be attended to. It’s a wake up call designed to remind you to begin to fulfill your purpose and take care of your own needs and desires. Poor diet, and a negative environment simply enhance these symptoms. In addition to the above, I discovered that the cycles of the moon and the earth, have a complex and beautiful connection to the monthly menstrual cycle that women experience. The true meaning of our menstrual cycles has been suppressed and we are ignorant of its spiritual and magnificently beautiful deeper significance.
As a result of what I discovered, I made lots of adjustments in my life. I stopped ignoring myself and my needs. I find ways to be alone and ask for guidance to deal with my suppressed emotions through meditation and the use of positive affirmations. Deep hidden emotions and lots of realizations have begun to surface, and are helping me to establish a better sense of self love and worthiness within myself. I also make it a part of my life to generally eat healthy and exercise. I try my best not to complain about my period and I chant quietly to myself, that my menstrual cycle is the way that I connect with the cycles of the moon and the tides and it is fabulous.
My body is now responding to my positive energy and the adjustments that I have made with love and much less intense PMS symptoms. I am now developing a wonderful relationship with my menstrual cycle and I actually welcome it each month and all the wisdom, and intuition that I gain during that time.
I have also come to realize that the whole Authentic Me concept is really all about me and my personal journey to discovering my authentic self and a purpose filled life. My vision for the Authentic me organization, my writings and my products is that my journey helps someone on their path to spiritual, physical and financial wealth all while deliberately designing her life to be fabulous and extraordinary.
Remember that you are fabulous, you are beautiful, and worthy of the very best in life!
Necey-
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
April's Authentic Me Party
HOW FAR WOULD YOU GO TO CAPTURE A MAN?
Is giving the best blow job, having a big booty, looking like a music video girl and learning to perform in bed like a porn star the solution to getting a good man or keeping one? While flipping through my monthly subscription of Essence Magazine, I came across an article titled The Body Shop – How far would you go to get a man - or please the one you have. The article focused on the pursuit of the new term coined as sexual perfection. My immediate thoughts were (what the F*&%K).
Paying for sex lessons i.e. (how to give good head) and black market hydro- gel buttocks injections are just a few of the tools from the bag of tricks that supports the interest in sexual perfection that stems from the belief that in order to get a man, keep a man or become the wifey, you better look a certain way and perform like a porn star in bed. The increased willingness of women to meet the raised sexual bar is based on the idea that there are not enough black men to go around. This gives men the upper hand to be able to demand and get what they want in bed. They are making it perfectly clear to woman that if their sexual performance isn’t good enough then they will be replaced by someone who will do it the right way. Grown men are actually responding to magazine polls that show that they think woman should be committed to the act of oral sex and that they are totally dissatisfied and even angered if a woman does not perform it properly. Good oral sex has become a right of entitlement to the mind (ego) of many men. Does this make these guys look totally shallow, weak and downright ignorant or what?
Please, somebody tell me when the ability to give a dynamic blow job has ever kept a man from straying? Now I know in the super inflated egos of many men, they are thinking what a dream come true it would be to have a woman that could be defined a possessing sexual perfection. Please know that no matter how great a man or a woman is in the bed or how great one looks today, eventually the infatuation and lust that you once held for one another will fade when the mask comes off and the real persons show up. Either what you have turns into true love and respect, or agitation and resentment. The once perfect face, booty and the great sex is no longer enough by itself to maintain the relationship, and people most often look to find someone new to give them that lustful high that they experience in a new courtship. Just know that to attempt to look perfect and be perfect in bed to keep a man is a dead end street.
My soul aches to know that in 2009, there are women who don’t yet understand their self-worth, and seek self validation from a man’s opinion about them. It’s as if we are moving backwards instead of forward in terms of gaining respect from men. My beautiful sisters, please know that there is so much more to love, life and happiness then being the biggest booty on the block. It deeply puzzles me why women tolerate this mentality from men. Ladies always remember that you have the golden eggs, you have what they want, so technically you should be the one calling the shots especially when it comes to what you do and don’t do with your body. So stop being afraid that he will go out and get someone else. Whoever she is; she can have his broke down mentality behind. Let him go.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that the ability to give a good blow job is not a good asset to have if that’s what you and your current or future man both enjoy. I do believe that doing your best to looking your best and being experimental and liberated sexually is a wonderful thing. But in no way should you allow the value that a man puts on you be based merely on how well you perform in bed or whether or not you have a ghetto booty or a twenty two inch waist line. Keep in mind that a real man who values himself, won’t fall for just a big booty and smile. A conscious man definitely looks for more substance in a woman.
My vision for myself is not to be able to give the best head, work a stripper pole and keep my body tight and looking right so that a man will love me. My goal is to have a man love me for who I am so that my desire and pleasure is to give him great sex, work a pole for him and keep myself looking my best, because his wonderful love is one of the things that inspires me to do so; big difference.
When you are developing on a conscious level you are able to see past this type of foolishness and you clearly understand that a true love connection is one that comes deep from the soul. If we put half the energy into loving and appreciating ourselves and working on the inner woman, as we do into fixing the outer woman to please or keep a man, we would be 100 years ahead in our evolution as women. If true love and respect is what you are seeking then you must stop settling for less. Stop wasting your time focusing and worrying about the physical assets that you don’t have, and be thankful for the ones you do have. Learn to love and respect yourself so that you will be better equipped to attract a quality man into your life, and only then can you find true love and happiness.
Now a word to the brothers who endorse this foolishness; when you can match up to L.L. Cool J in terms of body image, and after you enroll into how to eat p*&%y 101 and stay rock hard all night 101 and actually get it right, then you may have a leg to stand on, until then ni%$ga’s please!
Leave a comment and let me know your opinion on the subject of sexual perfection. If you wish to be added to my newsletter and receive regular links to my blog post, send me your email address at talk2necey@gmail.com
And ladies, remember that you are fabulous, you are beautiful, and worthy of the very best in life!
Necey-
Friday, March 13, 2009
SAVE A LITTLE TIME FOR ME
Every day, and I do mean every day, you have to touch something that inspires you, excites you, lifts you up and puts you in a good place, even if it’s only for a few moments. Be it quiet time, a beautiful poem, or the sight and scent of a lovely flower you need me time.
I know that there are the children, work, the church, your man, and all the other people places and things that you have interweaving in and out of our daily lives. Unfortunately you are often the forgotten one. It is an atrocity to go through the routine of the day and not treat yourself to a few moments of pleasure. Please understand ladies that every day and I do mean everyday without hesitation, you have to do you. With all the hustle and bustle that we encounter on a daily basis, you must commit to taking the time to be silent, be still and take in the moment? You must take the time to acknowledge and honor your being?
Magnificently, if you are reading this article, then you are at this moment taking time to yourself to read a word of encouragement. Congratulations to you! Go a little further though; right now take a look at your nails, your feet. Could you use a manicure and a pedicure? What is the condition of your hair today? Is a shampoo in order? What about your skin, have you oiled and moisturized your body today. How is your breathing? Are you tense, feel your shoulders, take some deep breaths and relax. Have you drunk a sufficient amount of water today or taken the time to exercise for better health? Have you flossed your teeth today? Have you looked in the mirror and said I love you today? Ask yourself, what have I done for me today? Stop right now and give you some time. Five minutes of me time is a wonderful place to start. Remember that if you don’t love and take care of you, nobody else will. Your inner being radiates with joy when you take the time to honor you. By honoring yourself, you uplift and honor all women.
Leave a comment below and tell us what you did to take care of yourself. Remember that you are fabulous, beautiful and worthy of the very best in life!
-Necey
I know that there are the children, work, the church, your man, and all the other people places and things that you have interweaving in and out of our daily lives. Unfortunately you are often the forgotten one. It is an atrocity to go through the routine of the day and not treat yourself to a few moments of pleasure. Please understand ladies that every day and I do mean everyday without hesitation, you have to do you. With all the hustle and bustle that we encounter on a daily basis, you must commit to taking the time to be silent, be still and take in the moment? You must take the time to acknowledge and honor your being?
Magnificently, if you are reading this article, then you are at this moment taking time to yourself to read a word of encouragement. Congratulations to you! Go a little further though; right now take a look at your nails, your feet. Could you use a manicure and a pedicure? What is the condition of your hair today? Is a shampoo in order? What about your skin, have you oiled and moisturized your body today. How is your breathing? Are you tense, feel your shoulders, take some deep breaths and relax. Have you drunk a sufficient amount of water today or taken the time to exercise for better health? Have you flossed your teeth today? Have you looked in the mirror and said I love you today? Ask yourself, what have I done for me today? Stop right now and give you some time. Five minutes of me time is a wonderful place to start. Remember that if you don’t love and take care of you, nobody else will. Your inner being radiates with joy when you take the time to honor you. By honoring yourself, you uplift and honor all women.
Leave a comment below and tell us what you did to take care of yourself. Remember that you are fabulous, beautiful and worthy of the very best in life!
-Necey
Friday, March 6, 2009
An Unbreakable Bond!
When a woman shares a painful part of her story, all women pause and feels her pain? We all seem to swallow a lump in our throats and experience a brief moment of reflection, a sort of mourning. A part of us relates in some way or another to the story being told, and in your mind your thinking, I’ve been there girl; I know what you’re going through, I understand your pain.
Those goose bumps and the strong energy that invades your body from head to toe when we are in the mist of relating to another’s experience is your inner self longing to heal, begging you to listen, giving you a sense of relief that you are not the only one who is dealing with a particular situation. Your inner self is often nudging you to take the opportunity to share your story so that it may help someone else who needs relief or healing. However, it’s sad that we fear letting our guards down and hide behind the veil of make-up, designer shoes, purses and clothes and the false self image that we have created to mask our inner unhappiness, fears and insecurities. Why are we so afraid to be real and expose the circumstances of our pain, when the truth is that we all on some level are dealing with emotional baggage, the bondage of the past and the challenges of everyday living?
Women have a strong connection to one another that is not obvious to the naked eye? All though, social and economical status, race, religion and geographical boundaries divide us, there is an invisible emotional energy that binds us. That bond or connective tissue that ties us together is the collective experiences of women all over the world and throughout history. Extreme Discrimination, exploitation, verbal suppression, sexual and physical abuse and slavery is embedded in our psyche and DNA. Please let me not forget to mention the challenges of raising children often alone, love, marriage and infidelity, body image and money issues. Every woman, everywhere, can somehow relate.
I believe we can help heal one another by listening to and sharing our experiences. The best part is when we triumph through situations and we are able to articulate the lessons that life was teaching us, our so called negative stories and experiences evolve into reflections of positivity, joy and encouragement for ourselves and other women who are on a similar journey. A group of women sharing and caring is a phenomenal pain killing drug that I recommend women prescribe to for strength and inspiration. Ladies Lets care enough to share!
On Valentine’s Day this year, I along with my dear friend Terra (Terra you’re the best) had an opportunity to host an all female party for our friend Ms. Tonisa Jones, and it was absolutely lovely and inspiring. We weren’t sitting around feeling down and out because a brother had not bought us a bouquet of flowers, a teddy bear and candy. OH No! This night was about self love and appreciation. We danced and participated in fun and positively affirming activities, we ate, we drank, we had lots of laughs and most importantly, we shared, cared and celebrated ourselves.
To the ladies that partied with us: I want to say thank you to Latonia for being a bright and shining example of strength and courage, and thank you Kat for reminding us about what a sexy shoe can do for the aura of a woman. Thank you Janclynne, for reminding us all just how beautiful we all are, and Olleisha girl you won best hairdo of the night, absolutely immaculate hair. Laquita, your smart sweet presence balanced us all out. Tracey you reminded us that women super are intelligent. Liz your down to earth presence reminded us to keep it real girl, and Charlene your smile could light up the world. Shawnitra if the term beautiful brown skin was in the dictionary, your picture would be there. Christine, can you please teach me how to dance like you when I grow up, moms was doing her thing. And to Diane, we all want to look like you when we reach 46. Teach us your beauty secrets please. Thank you so much Terra, I could not have done it without you. And Tonisa, thank you for the stage and opportunity to launch my first party and help expand what I am most passionate about, which is inspiring women to live full and passionate lives. I look forward to seeing you all at the next party. Please share your comments!
And remember that you are beautiful, fabulous and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love Necey!
Those goose bumps and the strong energy that invades your body from head to toe when we are in the mist of relating to another’s experience is your inner self longing to heal, begging you to listen, giving you a sense of relief that you are not the only one who is dealing with a particular situation. Your inner self is often nudging you to take the opportunity to share your story so that it may help someone else who needs relief or healing. However, it’s sad that we fear letting our guards down and hide behind the veil of make-up, designer shoes, purses and clothes and the false self image that we have created to mask our inner unhappiness, fears and insecurities. Why are we so afraid to be real and expose the circumstances of our pain, when the truth is that we all on some level are dealing with emotional baggage, the bondage of the past and the challenges of everyday living?
Women have a strong connection to one another that is not obvious to the naked eye? All though, social and economical status, race, religion and geographical boundaries divide us, there is an invisible emotional energy that binds us. That bond or connective tissue that ties us together is the collective experiences of women all over the world and throughout history. Extreme Discrimination, exploitation, verbal suppression, sexual and physical abuse and slavery is embedded in our psyche and DNA. Please let me not forget to mention the challenges of raising children often alone, love, marriage and infidelity, body image and money issues. Every woman, everywhere, can somehow relate.
I believe we can help heal one another by listening to and sharing our experiences. The best part is when we triumph through situations and we are able to articulate the lessons that life was teaching us, our so called negative stories and experiences evolve into reflections of positivity, joy and encouragement for ourselves and other women who are on a similar journey. A group of women sharing and caring is a phenomenal pain killing drug that I recommend women prescribe to for strength and inspiration. Ladies Lets care enough to share!
On Valentine’s Day this year, I along with my dear friend Terra (Terra you’re the best) had an opportunity to host an all female party for our friend Ms. Tonisa Jones, and it was absolutely lovely and inspiring. We weren’t sitting around feeling down and out because a brother had not bought us a bouquet of flowers, a teddy bear and candy. OH No! This night was about self love and appreciation. We danced and participated in fun and positively affirming activities, we ate, we drank, we had lots of laughs and most importantly, we shared, cared and celebrated ourselves.
To the ladies that partied with us: I want to say thank you to Latonia for being a bright and shining example of strength and courage, and thank you Kat for reminding us about what a sexy shoe can do for the aura of a woman. Thank you Janclynne, for reminding us all just how beautiful we all are, and Olleisha girl you won best hairdo of the night, absolutely immaculate hair. Laquita, your smart sweet presence balanced us all out. Tracey you reminded us that women super are intelligent. Liz your down to earth presence reminded us to keep it real girl, and Charlene your smile could light up the world. Shawnitra if the term beautiful brown skin was in the dictionary, your picture would be there. Christine, can you please teach me how to dance like you when I grow up, moms was doing her thing. And to Diane, we all want to look like you when we reach 46. Teach us your beauty secrets please. Thank you so much Terra, I could not have done it without you. And Tonisa, thank you for the stage and opportunity to launch my first party and help expand what I am most passionate about, which is inspiring women to live full and passionate lives. I look forward to seeing you all at the next party. Please share your comments!
And remember that you are beautiful, fabulous and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love Necey!
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Do What You Love!
Ladies, why is it that you don’t seek work or fulfillment in what excites you or nurtures your innate creativity or passion instead of settling for mediocrity? Year in and year out, you follow the same old ritualistic schedule of going to work 8-5 Monday thru Friday to what is usually not a desired or planned career choice, but rather a job that you hate. This job barely pays the bills and rarely leaves much of anything to splurge on without leaving you in a deficit. You have no defined plan, just a false sense of security that renders you totally dependent, miserable and most importantly unfulfilled. You are convinced that this is the only way to live, and anyone who has an excess of time freedom, fame, fortune, or are just plain happy are among the lucky chosen few whom God has shown favoritism. You live your life doing what you have to do just to survive, because you don’t believe that you can do better or that you have any other options.
You are among a vast majority of women who don't take action because they are allowing themselves to be guided by fear. Underneath the fear is a longing to understand how to do more and how to be more. Fortunately, we are living in a time that people are becoming more conscious and in tune with their purpose in life. Intuitively you know that your journey on planet earth is meant to be enjoyed and not just tolerated or dealt with, but you don’t know what you want to do more less where to begin or how to figure it out.
The historic election of our nation’s first African American President, Barack Obama is a clear indication that change is in the air. It’s always easier to believe in someone else then to believe in yourself, but the change that is taking place must include you. What are you going to do to make your life and the world a better place? We have to stop telling our children that they can be anything they want to be yet we do nothing with our lives. Remember that you are their first and foremost example to your children. What example are you setting for your children right now?
Are you honestly happy or comfortable with your life at this time? What do you really want out life? There is an old saying that states that if you find something you love to do, you'll never work a day in your life. If you could choose to be and do anything you wanted, what would it be? Maybe you have magic hands that can cook and set someone’s soul on fire after they take a bite of your food? Are you an undiscovered comedian who can make people laugh into hysterics? Can you sing, dance, paint or draw? Maybe you can sew and design fashions that deserve to be on the runways of the world. Are you good with children? Or maybe you have an over active imagination and should be a published author or movie producer. Maybe you don’t have a clue what you want to do and will have to dig deep to discover your creativity. No matter what, life is waiting for you to take the first step.
A strong vision is how all things begin to manifest and is all that is initially required. To propel you forward, learn to become grateful for everything that you already have in your life. Sincere gratitude attracts more positivity. Take deliberate time to get quiet, meditate and ask your inner guide (intuition) for assistance. Make it clear that you want to do more with your life and that you are willing to grow. Begin to dream, and visualize about what it is that you are wanting. Write down your dreams and desires on paper in addition to the answers that come to you intuitively. Read books that inspire, uplift and help to erase the negative patterns of thinking that you have been indoctrinated into.
Don’t cast your pearls to the swine by sharing your plans with dream stealer's. Just do what you do and let your results speak for you. Surround yourself around positive people.
Let go of the excuses about not having the time to put anymore activities on your plate. Just scrape all that time wasting, energy draining junk into the trash to make room for what is really important.
Don't let hard economical times slow you down or get you depressed. Avoid the news as much as possible. The universe is going through a cycle of cleansing that is necessary when we as humans let things get out of control. This is a time to go into deep reflection and analyze ourselves. Whatever happens in your life no matter what it is should be looked upon as a stepping stone and not as an obstacle. If you get knocked down you get back up and keep doing what needs to be done until you get the results you are seeking.
Make it clear to yourself that your job is a temporary inconvenience and not a permanent nightmare that you will endure only while you are setting yourself up for a more spiritually fulfilling journey.
Most importantly learn to release the past, stay in the present and let the future evolve step by step and moment by moment.
The key is to begin. It’s time to stop simply existing and start living. Be the best you can be. The world needs what you have to offer.
Please leave a comment by clicking on the comment link below and share with others what your dreams are, and what you have to say about making a change in your life and in the world.
I look forward to chatting with you and remember –
You are beautiful, fabulous, and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love - Necey
You are among a vast majority of women who don't take action because they are allowing themselves to be guided by fear. Underneath the fear is a longing to understand how to do more and how to be more. Fortunately, we are living in a time that people are becoming more conscious and in tune with their purpose in life. Intuitively you know that your journey on planet earth is meant to be enjoyed and not just tolerated or dealt with, but you don’t know what you want to do more less where to begin or how to figure it out.
The historic election of our nation’s first African American President, Barack Obama is a clear indication that change is in the air. It’s always easier to believe in someone else then to believe in yourself, but the change that is taking place must include you. What are you going to do to make your life and the world a better place? We have to stop telling our children that they can be anything they want to be yet we do nothing with our lives. Remember that you are their first and foremost example to your children. What example are you setting for your children right now?
Are you honestly happy or comfortable with your life at this time? What do you really want out life? There is an old saying that states that if you find something you love to do, you'll never work a day in your life. If you could choose to be and do anything you wanted, what would it be? Maybe you have magic hands that can cook and set someone’s soul on fire after they take a bite of your food? Are you an undiscovered comedian who can make people laugh into hysterics? Can you sing, dance, paint or draw? Maybe you can sew and design fashions that deserve to be on the runways of the world. Are you good with children? Or maybe you have an over active imagination and should be a published author or movie producer. Maybe you don’t have a clue what you want to do and will have to dig deep to discover your creativity. No matter what, life is waiting for you to take the first step.
A strong vision is how all things begin to manifest and is all that is initially required. To propel you forward, learn to become grateful for everything that you already have in your life. Sincere gratitude attracts more positivity. Take deliberate time to get quiet, meditate and ask your inner guide (intuition) for assistance. Make it clear that you want to do more with your life and that you are willing to grow. Begin to dream, and visualize about what it is that you are wanting. Write down your dreams and desires on paper in addition to the answers that come to you intuitively. Read books that inspire, uplift and help to erase the negative patterns of thinking that you have been indoctrinated into.
Don’t cast your pearls to the swine by sharing your plans with dream stealer's. Just do what you do and let your results speak for you. Surround yourself around positive people.
Let go of the excuses about not having the time to put anymore activities on your plate. Just scrape all that time wasting, energy draining junk into the trash to make room for what is really important.
Don't let hard economical times slow you down or get you depressed. Avoid the news as much as possible. The universe is going through a cycle of cleansing that is necessary when we as humans let things get out of control. This is a time to go into deep reflection and analyze ourselves. Whatever happens in your life no matter what it is should be looked upon as a stepping stone and not as an obstacle. If you get knocked down you get back up and keep doing what needs to be done until you get the results you are seeking.
Make it clear to yourself that your job is a temporary inconvenience and not a permanent nightmare that you will endure only while you are setting yourself up for a more spiritually fulfilling journey.
Most importantly learn to release the past, stay in the present and let the future evolve step by step and moment by moment.
The key is to begin. It’s time to stop simply existing and start living. Be the best you can be. The world needs what you have to offer.
Please leave a comment by clicking on the comment link below and share with others what your dreams are, and what you have to say about making a change in your life and in the world.
I look forward to chatting with you and remember –
You are beautiful, fabulous, and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love - Necey
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
A LOVE AFFAIR WITH ME!
I’ve been hearing for years that self love is the key to a fulfilling life, but it wasn’t until recently that I gained true clarity on the subject. At the tender age of 39 I realized what it really means to love myself, and start to consciously show myself love and appreciation.
My definition of self love is being able to honestly acknowledge that I am an important being who understands her self- worth; therefore I take the time to nurture and take care of myself. It’s about being able to look in the mirror and into the window of my heart knowing that I am perfect just as I am. Once I recognized my self-worth, my self- talk began to change and I began to treat myself differently. I learned that the way I treat myself is the way that people will treat me, and how life will treat me. A lot of layers have been peeled back and yet there are still more layers, but every day I am evolving. I've learned to become silent, to be still and listen to the voice of the spirit or being that I am beneath my flesh and bones.
I realized how surface my so called taking care of me was, so this new found love has me spending a lot of time on me. Each morning when I awaken I practice deliberately focusing on happy thoughts, and all the wonderful things that I am grateful for in my life right now. I spend at 15-30 minutes in silent meditation which puts me in a good feeling place. I stand in the mirror and repeat positive affirmation to myself, about myself while looking myself in the eyes. This is very powerful. I do lots of reading and writing every day. I make sure that I drink lots of water and exercise because it’s about feeling good and taking care of me. It helps to clear my thinking and makes my spirit is lighter.
I seduce myself with a warm baths, foot scrubs and facial regiments at my leisure. I Lotion and massage my body into softness and lay back and relax and take it all in. I take the time to floss and brush my teeth to my satisfaction. I take care of my hands and feet. I do whatever it takes to look my best when I step out of the house. My space is neat and organized which is a must in order to be able hear life when it speaks to me.
I relish in having the time to prepare myself healthy meals. I love sushi and fine red wine, and treat myself to it often. I visit the ocean and rivers in my city and I go to the park and sit out in nature a whole lot. Spending time in nature balances me. I drive through beautiful neighborhoods and visualize the life style that the universe has set aside for me. I Love seeing good movies that make me laugh and cry. The five dollar Monday thru Thursday $5.00 deal has me hooked. I visit museums of art and take in the beauty and silence of it all.
A 9-5 is not an option, never has been, never will be. Typical and in the box society is not designed for us to have the kind of freedom that I have. I have always believed that you have to claim your freedom and take it. It’s so amazing that when you do; the universe is standing there waiting to bless you with everything you need and more. I speak out loud everyday with great knowing that there is no lack in the universe. I have temporarily downsized my life style to be able to spend time with me. Yet I feel, see and know that I lack nothing. I have actually gained so much. I now understand that chasing money never brings happiness, but true happiness causes money to chase you instead.
I have no pressure to be or have anything in particular. I’m staying present and allowing life to flow. I'm doing what I want to do, what I enjoy and what I am passionate about. The negative thoughts still creep in from time to time and tell me that I can't accomplish my dreams or goals or live the life that I desire. I simply tell my mind, thank you for sharing and I keep doing what it is that pleases me and visualizing and seeing my life only the way that I want it to be. I turned 40 on December 21st, and I have never felt better. Life is wonderful!
Leave a comment and share what are you doing to take care of yourself in 2009?
I look forward to chatting with you and remember –
You are beautiful, fabulous and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love - Necey
talk2necey@gmail.com
My definition of self love is being able to honestly acknowledge that I am an important being who understands her self- worth; therefore I take the time to nurture and take care of myself. It’s about being able to look in the mirror and into the window of my heart knowing that I am perfect just as I am. Once I recognized my self-worth, my self- talk began to change and I began to treat myself differently. I learned that the way I treat myself is the way that people will treat me, and how life will treat me. A lot of layers have been peeled back and yet there are still more layers, but every day I am evolving. I've learned to become silent, to be still and listen to the voice of the spirit or being that I am beneath my flesh and bones.
I realized how surface my so called taking care of me was, so this new found love has me spending a lot of time on me. Each morning when I awaken I practice deliberately focusing on happy thoughts, and all the wonderful things that I am grateful for in my life right now. I spend at 15-30 minutes in silent meditation which puts me in a good feeling place. I stand in the mirror and repeat positive affirmation to myself, about myself while looking myself in the eyes. This is very powerful. I do lots of reading and writing every day. I make sure that I drink lots of water and exercise because it’s about feeling good and taking care of me. It helps to clear my thinking and makes my spirit is lighter.
I seduce myself with a warm baths, foot scrubs and facial regiments at my leisure. I Lotion and massage my body into softness and lay back and relax and take it all in. I take the time to floss and brush my teeth to my satisfaction. I take care of my hands and feet. I do whatever it takes to look my best when I step out of the house. My space is neat and organized which is a must in order to be able hear life when it speaks to me.
I relish in having the time to prepare myself healthy meals. I love sushi and fine red wine, and treat myself to it often. I visit the ocean and rivers in my city and I go to the park and sit out in nature a whole lot. Spending time in nature balances me. I drive through beautiful neighborhoods and visualize the life style that the universe has set aside for me. I Love seeing good movies that make me laugh and cry. The five dollar Monday thru Thursday $5.00 deal has me hooked. I visit museums of art and take in the beauty and silence of it all.
A 9-5 is not an option, never has been, never will be. Typical and in the box society is not designed for us to have the kind of freedom that I have. I have always believed that you have to claim your freedom and take it. It’s so amazing that when you do; the universe is standing there waiting to bless you with everything you need and more. I speak out loud everyday with great knowing that there is no lack in the universe. I have temporarily downsized my life style to be able to spend time with me. Yet I feel, see and know that I lack nothing. I have actually gained so much. I now understand that chasing money never brings happiness, but true happiness causes money to chase you instead.
I have no pressure to be or have anything in particular. I’m staying present and allowing life to flow. I'm doing what I want to do, what I enjoy and what I am passionate about. The negative thoughts still creep in from time to time and tell me that I can't accomplish my dreams or goals or live the life that I desire. I simply tell my mind, thank you for sharing and I keep doing what it is that pleases me and visualizing and seeing my life only the way that I want it to be. I turned 40 on December 21st, and I have never felt better. Life is wonderful!
Leave a comment and share what are you doing to take care of yourself in 2009?
I look forward to chatting with you and remember –
You are beautiful, fabulous and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love - Necey
talk2necey@gmail.com
Sunday, November 16, 2008
IT'S ALL ABOUT THE WOMAN IN THE MIRROR
Over the past week I have heard about comments coming from sisters in our communities and around the world about Michelle Obama being tired and unattractive. Their two cent opinions honestly don't account for much, but have intrigued me nonetheless. Interestingly, I was not surprised to hear that there are actually sisters out there hating on her. It's so typical of insecure and unhappy women to tear other women down. Apparently, she doesn’t measure up to their standards of who they think Barak Obama should have chosen as a wife thus our new first lady. One interesting comment that I've heard is that I hope she does something. As if to suggest that she is some uneducated, unmotivated chick that sits around on the couch with a robe, slippers and pink sponge rollers in her hair watching soap operas, eating bon bon's and giving Barak baby mama drama when he gets home at night. Or how about the comment that Obama is a good looking man, why did he pick her? Well I say tell me what perfect beauty looks like? Does it look like you? Let me just say GET REAL! Contrary to what you may have heard or fantasized about, chicken heads don't end up with lawyers, senators, or presidents, at least not in public.
Barak Obama is no dummy and wouldn’t pick a dummy to marry and spend the rest of his life with. Michelle Obama is a graduate of Princeton University and Harvard Law School. She was already practicing law with the firm Sidley Austin when Barak came there as an intern. She was assigned the task of being his mentor, and if I must say, she taught him well. During their 16 years of marriage, and up until they decided that he would run for the presidency she maintained a full time career while birthing and raising their 2 beautiful daughters. She played an intricate part in the election where she toured around the country almost daily during the campaign, and gave speeches just as aggressively as Barak Obama himself. Who could forget the dynamic speech that she presented at the democratic convention on behalf of her husband. She has his back and he knows it.
A wise woman knows that the way to a man's heart has nothing to do with what a woman looks like on the outside, but has everything to do with the content of her heart, who she is on the inside. Even the blind can see that he adores his wife and recognizes her inner and outer beauty. I believe that if Michelle suddenly grew and a horn in the center of her forehead, it would not alter the love he has for her. I'm sure that when she wraps her 5ft 11in legs around his back at night there is no place he would rather be. Barak made it perfectly clear that he knows where his strength lies when he publicly stated during his speech the night he became the new president elect that he could not have done this without his best friend and the love of his life Michelle Obama. So in the grand scheme of things your negative opinions matter not. In case you hadn't heard, next to every great man is a SUPERWOMAN. Ask President Obama.
Michelle Obama is beautiful and represents just one of the many varieties of women of color all over the world. Unfortunately, women of color and especially black women are the underdogs when it comes to standards of beauty in the west (even though I know that we are secretly the envy of other women). The media and has done enough to tear down Michelle Obama, and rest assured that there is a lot more to come. It is more important now for women of color more than in any other time in history to uplift and support Michelle because she is in the spotlight of the entire world. She now has the platform by which to represent not only African American women, but women of color all over the world. This is not the time to tear her down, but a time to help her shine so that we too can shine. Even more importantly, she is due our respect simply because she has committed to supporting her husband by altering her entire life so that we people of color can have a magnificent and powerful example of ourselves through Barak Obama. Please don’t ever forget that fact.
It's time to stop these attacks and clean up the unconscious often denied low self esteem that we carry as women of color. It's time to improve our lives and stop silently resenting Michelle's or any other woman's accomplishments just because it puts us on front street and renders us excuseless to the achievement of our own personal goals and dreams, and the responsibility to live up to the standards of womanhood and excellence that flows abundantly through our DNA.
My belief is that as a whole, we suffer from severe low self esteem, not only from our own personal experiences, but the collective past and present pain of women all over the world. It’s the fuel that divides us as women and keeps us from living up to our full potential. We are at a pivotal time in our history that calls us to stop the female to female divisions because when we tear down other women, we tear down ourselves, it’s time for change.
It is said that when a woman is uplifted, happy and experiencing joy and fulfillment, everyone around her benefits. We are the glue in the universe that bonds everything together. With so many women out of whack the whole world is out of whack. It's time for us as women to take care of ourselves, to stop simply existing and start living. It's time to learn to listen to our inner guides, she has so much to reveal to you. It's time to deal with our childhood issues and release the past. It’s time to stop all this bitchy, back stabbing, cat fighting, I’m gonna take your man hating on one another behavior. It's time for us to delete men from our lives and our beds who bring us anything other than truth, honesty, and good loving. It's time for us to discover and follow our passions so that we can become spiritually, physically and financially wealthy. It’s time recognize that we all possess unique beauty, power and strength and that together we could do marvelous things to help improve our lives, and the lives of women all over the world? I believe that by building up our self esteem and learning what it truly means to love ourselves, we will understand and know that we are worthy of only the best in life. Most importantly, by truly loving ourselves I know that we will learn to love and respect one another.
But despite all of the things we must overcome, when I look beyond the tough exterior guard that many of us shield ourselves with, I see the most loving supportive women on the planet. When the chips fall down we have each other’s backs. We have survived through trials and tribulations like none other and to this day continue to walk through the negativity of the media, the music industry and the negative treatment of men right in our own communities. I can see the love and support that we give each other in times of need. I know that what really lies beneath all the drama is a deep bond between us all that is only hidden behind years of pain, trials and tribulation, the stuff that we have allowed to affect us and define our lives thus far.
But let’s keep it real, no matter what, we are the best weave wearing, shoe strutting, body banging, fashion coordinating, false nail and false eyelash wearing, makeup apply, good food cooking, hardest working, taking care of our children, running the household, shit tolerating, standing by our men, being there for family and friends, making something out of nothing divas on the planet. We are powerful! We can do anything we put our minds to.
Several years ago I began to take responsibility for myself and the lack of fulfillment in my own life. Hearing that we should love ourselves and understanding how to do it are two totally different things. I discovered that learning to love one’s self and being comfortable in your own skin is a very interesting journey, one that I have come a long way on and still have a ways to go. I also discovered that I have a profound inner nudging to help women improve their self esteem and I have a whole lot of life experiences in which to do so. What most would consider as negative experiences, I have embraced as beautiful lessons and I am extremely grateful for the challenges that have brought me to such a magnificent place in my life, and that place expands and grows every day.
My mission with this blog is to simply plant seeds and techniques through my writing by which women can begin to transform their own lives and connect with other women and participate in a positive platform and environment in which they can ask questions, share experiences, opinions, ideas, and success stories. I don't deal in the phony fairytale Hollywood versions of life; this blog is about everyday real life subjects. I love to have fun and make people laugh while I expose the drama. Warning to sensitive people-Beware! I rarely bite my tongue; I tell it like it is.
If you have ever heard of the concept paying it forward, then I'm sure you understand what I mean when I say that if I can help one woman who helps another, who helps another and so forth, my work will not be in vain. Well, I'm asking that if you have enjoyed reading my article and if anything that you have read here has inspired you to want to improve your life or help me help others, please go ahead and forward this email or a link to my blog address to as many women as you can think of. If you are not on my email list and this was forwarded to you by someone else, email me at talk2necey@gmail.com leave me your email address and ask me to add you to my blog contact list so that you can be notified each time this blog is updated. I'm thanking you in advance for your support, and letting you know that my heart over flows with gratitude from your kindness.
YOUR COMMENTS AND OPINONS ARE REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME!!!!! Please register and get a free account with Google and blogger so that you can leave me your comments and tell me what you think about the negative comments about Michelle Obama and women taking this particular time in history to begin a revolution that focuses on women uniting and improving their lives.
I look forward to chatting with you all and remember –
You are beautiful, fabulous and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love - Necey
Barak Obama is no dummy and wouldn’t pick a dummy to marry and spend the rest of his life with. Michelle Obama is a graduate of Princeton University and Harvard Law School. She was already practicing law with the firm Sidley Austin when Barak came there as an intern. She was assigned the task of being his mentor, and if I must say, she taught him well. During their 16 years of marriage, and up until they decided that he would run for the presidency she maintained a full time career while birthing and raising their 2 beautiful daughters. She played an intricate part in the election where she toured around the country almost daily during the campaign, and gave speeches just as aggressively as Barak Obama himself. Who could forget the dynamic speech that she presented at the democratic convention on behalf of her husband. She has his back and he knows it.
A wise woman knows that the way to a man's heart has nothing to do with what a woman looks like on the outside, but has everything to do with the content of her heart, who she is on the inside. Even the blind can see that he adores his wife and recognizes her inner and outer beauty. I believe that if Michelle suddenly grew and a horn in the center of her forehead, it would not alter the love he has for her. I'm sure that when she wraps her 5ft 11in legs around his back at night there is no place he would rather be. Barak made it perfectly clear that he knows where his strength lies when he publicly stated during his speech the night he became the new president elect that he could not have done this without his best friend and the love of his life Michelle Obama. So in the grand scheme of things your negative opinions matter not. In case you hadn't heard, next to every great man is a SUPERWOMAN. Ask President Obama.
Michelle Obama is beautiful and represents just one of the many varieties of women of color all over the world. Unfortunately, women of color and especially black women are the underdogs when it comes to standards of beauty in the west (even though I know that we are secretly the envy of other women). The media and has done enough to tear down Michelle Obama, and rest assured that there is a lot more to come. It is more important now for women of color more than in any other time in history to uplift and support Michelle because she is in the spotlight of the entire world. She now has the platform by which to represent not only African American women, but women of color all over the world. This is not the time to tear her down, but a time to help her shine so that we too can shine. Even more importantly, she is due our respect simply because she has committed to supporting her husband by altering her entire life so that we people of color can have a magnificent and powerful example of ourselves through Barak Obama. Please don’t ever forget that fact.
It's time to stop these attacks and clean up the unconscious often denied low self esteem that we carry as women of color. It's time to improve our lives and stop silently resenting Michelle's or any other woman's accomplishments just because it puts us on front street and renders us excuseless to the achievement of our own personal goals and dreams, and the responsibility to live up to the standards of womanhood and excellence that flows abundantly through our DNA.
My belief is that as a whole, we suffer from severe low self esteem, not only from our own personal experiences, but the collective past and present pain of women all over the world. It’s the fuel that divides us as women and keeps us from living up to our full potential. We are at a pivotal time in our history that calls us to stop the female to female divisions because when we tear down other women, we tear down ourselves, it’s time for change.
It is said that when a woman is uplifted, happy and experiencing joy and fulfillment, everyone around her benefits. We are the glue in the universe that bonds everything together. With so many women out of whack the whole world is out of whack. It's time for us as women to take care of ourselves, to stop simply existing and start living. It's time to learn to listen to our inner guides, she has so much to reveal to you. It's time to deal with our childhood issues and release the past. It’s time to stop all this bitchy, back stabbing, cat fighting, I’m gonna take your man hating on one another behavior. It's time for us to delete men from our lives and our beds who bring us anything other than truth, honesty, and good loving. It's time for us to discover and follow our passions so that we can become spiritually, physically and financially wealthy. It’s time recognize that we all possess unique beauty, power and strength and that together we could do marvelous things to help improve our lives, and the lives of women all over the world? I believe that by building up our self esteem and learning what it truly means to love ourselves, we will understand and know that we are worthy of only the best in life. Most importantly, by truly loving ourselves I know that we will learn to love and respect one another.
But despite all of the things we must overcome, when I look beyond the tough exterior guard that many of us shield ourselves with, I see the most loving supportive women on the planet. When the chips fall down we have each other’s backs. We have survived through trials and tribulations like none other and to this day continue to walk through the negativity of the media, the music industry and the negative treatment of men right in our own communities. I can see the love and support that we give each other in times of need. I know that what really lies beneath all the drama is a deep bond between us all that is only hidden behind years of pain, trials and tribulation, the stuff that we have allowed to affect us and define our lives thus far.
But let’s keep it real, no matter what, we are the best weave wearing, shoe strutting, body banging, fashion coordinating, false nail and false eyelash wearing, makeup apply, good food cooking, hardest working, taking care of our children, running the household, shit tolerating, standing by our men, being there for family and friends, making something out of nothing divas on the planet. We are powerful! We can do anything we put our minds to.
Several years ago I began to take responsibility for myself and the lack of fulfillment in my own life. Hearing that we should love ourselves and understanding how to do it are two totally different things. I discovered that learning to love one’s self and being comfortable in your own skin is a very interesting journey, one that I have come a long way on and still have a ways to go. I also discovered that I have a profound inner nudging to help women improve their self esteem and I have a whole lot of life experiences in which to do so. What most would consider as negative experiences, I have embraced as beautiful lessons and I am extremely grateful for the challenges that have brought me to such a magnificent place in my life, and that place expands and grows every day.
My mission with this blog is to simply plant seeds and techniques through my writing by which women can begin to transform their own lives and connect with other women and participate in a positive platform and environment in which they can ask questions, share experiences, opinions, ideas, and success stories. I don't deal in the phony fairytale Hollywood versions of life; this blog is about everyday real life subjects. I love to have fun and make people laugh while I expose the drama. Warning to sensitive people-Beware! I rarely bite my tongue; I tell it like it is.
If you have ever heard of the concept paying it forward, then I'm sure you understand what I mean when I say that if I can help one woman who helps another, who helps another and so forth, my work will not be in vain. Well, I'm asking that if you have enjoyed reading my article and if anything that you have read here has inspired you to want to improve your life or help me help others, please go ahead and forward this email or a link to my blog address to as many women as you can think of. If you are not on my email list and this was forwarded to you by someone else, email me at talk2necey@gmail.com leave me your email address and ask me to add you to my blog contact list so that you can be notified each time this blog is updated. I'm thanking you in advance for your support, and letting you know that my heart over flows with gratitude from your kindness.
YOUR COMMENTS AND OPINONS ARE REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME!!!!! Please register and get a free account with Google and blogger so that you can leave me your comments and tell me what you think about the negative comments about Michelle Obama and women taking this particular time in history to begin a revolution that focuses on women uniting and improving their lives.
I look forward to chatting with you all and remember –
You are beautiful, fabulous and worthy of the very best in life!
Much Love - Necey
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